Do you ever have a morning or day where you think "why the heck do I bother?" I had one of those mornings today and I am still feeling it now. I just want to go find a rock and crawl under it!
On top of Aston being sick for the whole weekend and a trip to the doctors yesterday because he had temps of almost 40degrees (with paracetamol) hubby is now sick too. As if this wasn't enough then the morning had to not run right and I lost it. It was a struggle to get the kids ready for school and if I have to explain what needs to be done one more time I am going to.... explode! I am trying, I really am! but some days I feel like the most incompetent mother in the world. I know I can do better as a Mum and it was probably just a crappy morning for the kids too but I am not feeling great right now. The bickering (as kids do) the asking them a million times to brush their teeth and get dressed and then wet pants just... well you get the idea! It all just came undone this morning and I don't know what to do? I am usually a pretty positive person so it is strange writing this here.
We have been having issues with our daughter and it is starting to take its toll on me. I don't really say too much about it as I am worried what people are going to think? Stupid I know, but still I am worried what you are going to think of me right now? Since starting school she has been going through this cycle where she wets her pants. Apparently this is quite common (so her school has told me but it doesn't make it any easier!) She has gone through stages like this before but they are usually over by now. I worry that I sent her to school too early and that I have made the wrong decision although academically she is fine her teach told us. At first she didn't say anything and would walk around in wet pants at school. When I found out I asked her why she is doing this and she said she didn't want to loose her friends at school. I then suggested she go to the toilet before she goes off and plays but again she is too worried her friends will go off without her. I also suggested asking her friends did they need to go to the toilet too as who knows maybe they are holding on too?
Then yesterday I had to go to the school twice as she wet her pants and take her clean undies in. I haven't put undies in her bag. I didn't want to seem like I was saying it was okay and there is a clean pair in your bag when it happens, but at the same time it is a pain to constantly take them into her at the school!
The office lady said she never seem worried at all so it isn't an inconvenience to her. We both suggested she ask her friends to go to the toilet with her or make a place to meet with them when she does go. I don't want her to be upset about it either but how am I suppose to get her to stop doing it? We have spoken to her teacher but maybe I have to do this again?
So you can see I am desperate and I don't know what to do? I actually feel like bawling my eyes out as it is getting on top of me so much. It probably sounds stupid but when it happens constantly it gets you down. She is a smart kid so I don't understand why? What would you do? Oh and I probably should let you know she doesn't wet her pants at night but does at home sometimes during the day. It is like she becomes so busy she won't go to the toilet as she doesn't want to miss a second. I am not perfect, I have got cross with her which I know is the wrong thing to do but I am only human. I know I have to do something about this but I don't know what? Looks like my day is going to be spent on Google trying to figure out what to do? I think today is going to be a bad day too.












