Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Do you ever have a morning or day where you think "why the heck do I bother?" I had one of those mornings today and I am still feeling it now. I just want to go find a rock and crawl under it!
On top of Aston being sick for the whole weekend and a trip to the doctors yesterday because he had temps of almost 40degrees (with paracetamol) hubby is now sick too. As if this wasn't enough then the morning had to not run right and I lost it. It was a struggle to get the kids ready for school and if I have to explain what needs to be done one more time I am going to.... explode! I am trying, I really am! but some days I feel like the most incompetent mother in the world. I know I can do better as a Mum and it was probably just a crappy morning for the kids too but I am not feeling great right now. The bickering (as kids do) the asking them a million times to brush their teeth and get dressed and then wet pants just... well you get the idea! It all just came undone this morning and I don't know what to do? I am usually a pretty positive person so it is strange writing this here.
We have been having issues with our daughter and it is starting to take its toll on me. I don't really say too much about it as I am worried what people are going to think? Stupid I know, but still I am worried what you are going to think of me right now? Since starting school she has been going through this cycle where she wets her pants. Apparently this is quite common (so her school has told me but it doesn't make it any easier!) She has gone through stages like this before but they are usually over by now. I worry that I sent her to school too early and that I have made the wrong decision although academically she is fine her teach told us. At first she didn't say anything and would walk around in wet pants at school. When I found out I asked her why she is doing this and she said she didn't want to loose her friends at school. I then suggested she go to the toilet before she goes off and plays but again she is too worried her friends will go off without her. I also suggested asking her friends did they need to go to the toilet too as who knows maybe they are holding on too?
Then yesterday I had to go to the school twice as she wet her pants and take her clean undies in. I haven't put undies in her bag. I didn't want to seem like I was saying it was okay and there is a clean pair in your bag when it happens, but at the same time it is a pain to constantly take them into her at the school!
The office lady said she never seem worried at all so it isn't an inconvenience to her. We both suggested she ask her friends to go to the toilet with her or make a place to meet with them when she does go. I don't want her to be upset about it either but how am I suppose to get her to stop doing it? We have spoken to her teacher but maybe I have to do this again?
So you can see I am desperate and I don't know what to do? I actually feel like bawling my eyes out as it is getting on top of me so much. It probably sounds stupid but when it happens constantly it gets you down. She is a smart kid so I don't understand why? What would you do? Oh and I probably should let you know she doesn't wet her pants at night but does at home sometimes during the day. It is like she becomes so busy she won't go to the toilet as she doesn't want to miss a second. I am not perfect, I have got cross with her which I know is the wrong thing to do but I am only human. I know I have to do something about this but I don't know what? Looks like my day is going to be spent on Google trying to figure out what to do? I think today is going to be a bad day too.
I have had my own ups and downs with confidence and I know that you can't be confidant 100% of the time, but we got to aim for close to that! right? I want my kids to have great confidence in themselves so they can make decisions that are right for them. I want them to be confident that my husband and I will always be there for them no matter what so they know they can always turn to us. Having confidence in yourself can also be different to having confidence in others too.
Writing this post made me think about the way I instil and grown confidence in my children and I know I can do better job. I also know that if I work on building confidence in myself this can only be a positive for both me and my kids so it is well worth doing. This post also made me realise that I have taught my kids about confidence in different ways. I have done this differently in some aspects between my boys and my girl. I am not sure if that is right or wrong (I am no expert?) but I am just having this realisation now....funny what the power of a blog posts can do...even to the writer.
With my boys I tell them I love them and that they are smart, give them the ownership of doing certain things to build their confidence. I think teaching them this can start from a very young age and right now Aston is 11months old and is already showing a great deal of confidence. With my daughter I have done the same things although I things have been a little different. I'm not sure if it is because she is a girl or because she was born almost 13weeks premature at 27+5 weeks gestation? I however do know things have been a bit different with her. I tell her that she is beautiful, smart and amazing. I want to teach her and my boys that with confidence you on your way to achieving anything you want!
I was inspired to write this post as I found this clip by Will.i.am's song "What I Am"
I also asked some facebook friends if they thought they were confident and those that replied said NO! and that they faked it alot....
So, do you think you are confident? Are you children? How do you think we can become more confident so we can teach our kids?
Monday, May 30, 2011
Hubby cooks far better then I do and for 10 years work in the hospitality industry (until we all got sick of the hours and bad pay!) so now he works a Monday to Friday job so we actually know what he looks like and he gets to play with his kids. During the week I try to keep the house as clean as possible (okay read here I try to speed clean so I can get back to blogging!) I think I do an OK job but sometimes get lazy, (being a domestic goddess is hard work!) then have a bout of OCD and go crazy and purge all of our items not being used and clean EVERYTHING! The general cleanliness of the house is pretty good but every so often I go crazy and clean skirting boards, light fittings etc... I am a much better cook now as he has taught me so much about food and how to cook. However , I cook because I have to but he cooks because he loves too. He can make a delicious meal out of what I would call 'nothing' and any of our friends would tell you that he is an amazing cook. Funnily enough we very rarely have a dinner invitation turned down at our place.
Through out our whole relationship (wow 14 years together this Nov!!) he has always done his fare share around the house and sometimes even more! He is a hard working man and I have had time both in the home and outside working too so we just try to find what works for us during these times. I am really grateful for this as I know women who still do a large chunk of the home duties even after working outside the house too. I still remember the first time my parents meet him and it still makes me laugh. I went off to work in the morning and when I returned home my Mum asked me if I had cleaned up before I left for work so early? I told her no that 'he' (not my hubby then but I better actually ask him what he wants me to call him on my blog?) would have done it and she was shocked! I think women of past generations think we might have it a bit to easy compared to them and we probably do in some respects. For me this is exactly why women are encouraging this and men are stepping up. We want our men around to father their children and to be our husbands too. We don't want them to be disconnected from the family unit and we are willing to swap roles and help each other out to make that happen. Roles have changed these days and I for one am happy for this! Gone are the days when a man never changed his child's nappies or cooked a meal!
For the last part of 2009 and the best part of 2010 I did next to NO house work (yes you read that right) because I had a high risk pregnancy with Aston and then a c-section. Hubby did everything! He worked, he cooked, he cleaned and he even had the kids spying on me when he wasn't around so I didn't do any heavy house work. Mason caught me once trying to hang out clothes on the line and let it slip that Dad had told him to 'tell me off' if he seen me doing something that I shouldn't do. But it doesn't stop at my husband though as the kids help out too. Kids need good role models in life and having a good one when it comes to cleaning is just another part of the good role model gig. I see nothing wrong with expecting my children to know how to make their own beds (okay, I haven't made Aston do this yet as he is only 11months - but he does love to help me vacuum) I know lots of people who don't have their children make the bed and I can't think why? Yes I know you make it better then them but how are they ever suppose to learn? Sometimes when the kids have gone to school or are outside playing I sneak into their rooms and straighten their bed up, but at least I got them to give it a go in the first place. Giving your children some responsibility builds confidence and I want my kids to be confident and able to do things for themselves! Teamwork is a big word in our house and we try to instil this by giving the kids jobs which we all have to do. They are only small simple jobs like making their beds, cleaning their rooms, drying up(stupid dishwasher doesn't work properly!) packing their school bags etc but I hope these small things will help my kids.
I am using my own set of parenting skills and also tips found at Planning With Kids aka @planningqueen on twitter or better know as the very lovely Nicole Avery. Nicole is a Mum of 5 who has a very helpful husband and who has put her planning to good use to help other families. Nicole recently launched a book just about this and I am also using her book that I purchased at the book launch in Melbourne a little while back. I am learning that spread sheets really do rock! Thanks Nicole.
I was inspired to write this post after hearing girlfriends say they needed more help from their partners around the house and after yet another weekend of cleaning by our family. I also have little things swirling around inside my head and they start out as smallish post ideas but then as you can see it morphs into something bigger!
I joked that we should give Mason (10) the VIVA shower fast wipes to clean the bathrooms (2) that we were given by Kidspot Mum say (i think they need to add a Dad say too!) but instead hubby did it. He said they worked a treat and we should buy them again. I think Mason should give it a go next time... just like in the ad on TV where they send in the son to clean the shower. I used the the mirror with the VIVA Glass & Mirror Wipes and thought it came up fantastic with no smears. The smears really drive me insane! I really like how VIVA provide 2 wipes to clean and shine and the fact they are reusable for sustainable living for the environment. One of my pet peeves is cleaning the shower screen and the mirrors because they just never seem to come up clean enough...until now. You think you have done a great job and then walk by later to see a smear or a water mark and it drives me insane! These will work a treat in the kids bathroom that constantly gets splashes of water,soap,toothpaste...and what is that?! ewww.
So do you have a modern man and family? Do your kids have jobs around the house?
disclosure: I was given one trial pack of VIVA glass and mirror wipes, VIVA Shower Fast Wipes and VIVA stainless steel wipes by Kidspot mum say to trial(again I think they need a Dad say or even a family say too!)
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Sunday, May 29, 2011
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Tonight I was on You-Tube and found the song and had to share it with you.
I couldn't remember the name of the song but I described it to Mason as 'that song about Airlie' and he knew just which one I was talking about. He also couldn't think of the name but started to sing it and we found it!
Airlie was at the other end of the house but heard the music and she ran to me and said "Mum my song is on!" This made me smile and we sat and sang the song together. I just hope she continues to believe this as she grows up.
Thursday, May 26, 2011
The Good news is I still managed to type all that out on my iPhone so I think I'm okay!
Does this mean I'm a 'real' blogger now since I've blogged about something as crazy as this? LOL c'mon you got to find the brighter side when stuff like this happens.
Also like to note that the dentist did nothing wrong, things like this just happen.
I hope you recognize me next time you see me without my patch? Airlie is working on making me a pirate hat as we speak too haha. At least it keeps her busy whole we wait.
Bye for now xx
Sent from my iPhone
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
There is so much about OPRAH at the moment due to her finishing up her show and presuing her 'OWN' network. You have to give the lady credit because that show has been on air since 1986! She has also help launch a lot of brands and personalities with her backing so I am sure there are lots of people grateful to her and her success.
I cam across this clip from Jimmy Kimmel LiveI and is worth a look and the laughs it receives.
Don't make out you wouldn't do this to get on TV! LOL
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
I feel like it was just yesterday that I was thanking my lucky stars that I was able to get pregnant again and carry a baby past 27weeks gestation. I loved being pregnant and celebrated as much as possible as I knew what I had missed last time around, I just didn't want to take a moment of it for granted.
I really enjoyed my last pregnancy and yes it is the truth! I know loads of you are going to think is this girl insane? Well that is debatable in some circles on some subjects but when it comes to pregnancy I don't think that is one of them. I enjoyed everything about it. I didn't wan to complain about any of it as I just felt so
Monday, May 23, 2011
I just wanted to mark this day and say how happy I am that I was able to have Aston after all my experiences with pre eclampsia (PE) and HELLLP Syndrome
(H (haemolysis - red blood cell damage); EL (elevated liver enzymes - indicating liver damage); and LP (low platelets in the blood leading to a bleeding tendency) when pregnant with Airlie Fae.
Thursday, May 19, 2011
|Aston wearing his WHITE SHIRT supporting White Shirt Day|
I don't think any ages is too young to start supporting worthy cause and I believe it builds good character to teach our kids this. From a very young age I remember my parents supporting many charities...even when we couldn't always afford it we always gave. I learnt that supporting is good for those you are giving to and good for your soul too. It doesn't matter how big or small the donation is cause it matters that you gave at all.
|Aston hanging out with his pals|
|Aston and I wearing our WHITE SHIRTS|
|Aston hanging out with his friends for White Shirt Day|
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
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Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Monday, May 16, 2011
At first he just loved follow us around while we were cleaning.As he has grown older he has become a little more confident and started to come closer and investigate.
These days he enjoys pulling the cord out and now he loves to push the button to retract it since his Daddy so wisely showed him how! I was a little concerned because I didn't want him to hit himself in the face or pull out the cord too far and have it become dangerous. I always keep an eye on him and so far he can only pull it out a little, so there isn't any danger of either thing happening.
He spends ages just sitting playing with the Dyson. I love watching the concentration on his face as he moves between the sequence of pulling the cord out and pushing the button.
I was thinking I might teach him to use it since he loves it so much as you have to start them early!
Have your children loved playing with out of the ordinary 'toys'? Share some of your stories here.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Friday, May 13, 2011
Thursday, May 12, 2011
This product comes from German company Bruder who make a variety of products that including industries like farming, construction, commercial vehicles, roadmix and even a mini series of the products too.
Now any boy is going to love these but in this day and age girls can love them too...actually I am pretty sure 'in my day' (ahem yes thank you for the old jokes from my friends) I loved to play with what is deemed as 'boys toys' as I had 3 younger brothers.
The Bruder company was founded by Paul Bruder in 1926 and now has toys being sold all around the world to children big and small and of all ages (adults I mean by this) I actually think I know a few 'big people' who have models by Bruder that take centre stage in display cabinets. This one above actually looks similar to what my Dad owns in real life so I might have to buy him one of those.
You can take a look online at their catalogue
You can also find games, colouring pages and wallpapers Bruder Action World
Alphie comes with 30 double-sided cards, providing more than 350 fun questions and challenges and a broad range of learning benefits. Plus there's additional booster packs available separately! For more information and learning benefits.
Support math skills: numeral and shape recognition, patterns, matching and sorting as well as spatial reasoning.
Stretch cognitive skills: cause and effect, compare and contrast, categorise and multi-step thinking.
Boost practical knowledge: introduce music, develop vocab, teach colour recognition and direction.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
iPhone app downloads